So you’re a vibrator virgin, unsure how to use a vibrator and have decided that so many other people can’t be wrong and its time to embrace this mind-blowing technology! Fantastic news. We were all in your position at one point before we worked out how to up our masturbation game.
Let’s ensure that you know the in’s and out’s of vibrators before you start so that you can enjoy them in the best possible way. With so many options here, which one is right for you? Should you tell your partner about it? And, how to look after it.
So here we go;
How Vibrators Work?
The key component of a vibrator is the motor. As with cars, all motors are not equal. Vibrators use an off-balance motor. When the motor spins, it makes the motor wobble and this is what causes the vibrations. The speed of the motor, weight size, and weight position all combine to determine the kind of vibration your sex toys provides.
When selecting the motor the manufacturer can choose a really high-powered, buzzy vibrator, a low-powered buzzy vibrator, a high-powered rumbly vibrator, or a low-powered rumbly vibrator.
Vibrators can be powered by standard batteries at your entry level through to USB rechargeable and some are even powered from the mains like the Magic Wands.
They tend to have a printed circuit board (PCB) that allows you to change the strength of the vibrations and the patterns to excite and delight.
They are mostly made from made of hard plastic (like ABS or TPR) or a soft rubber (like silicone, cyber skin, jelly rubber, or elastomer).
Though there are obvious benefits to some materials — non-porous materials, such as silicone, are easy to clean and sterilise, toxic jelly rubbers have been largely phased out in favour of safer materials — the “best” skin is really a matter of individual preference and what sort of sensation you’re looking for. Some are waterproof (great for the bath) some are not, so think how and where you would like to use it
But when you are choosing your vibrator, think of it as investing in you, and like with everything in life, you get what you pay for.
Finding The Right Vibrator
We all like and need something different to achieve the big “O”. For some, its purely clitoral stimulation for others it’s internal, lots like both and then there’s the G-spot. You will have a good idea of where you would like to start.
Top 5 Types of Vibrators
With so many to styles of vibrators to choose from though, it can still be fairly intimidating if you’re not sure where to start.
So here is a quick run down of the 5 main different styles of vibrators.
BULLET VIBRATORS
These are small (3 to 5 inches also known as a mini vibrator), quiet and very effective. Bullet vibrators are a great beginners vibrator but experts love them too.
They are perfect to keep in your purse to be whipped out whenever you decide is an opportune moment. While they are primarily used for clitoral stimulation, they can also be used to stimulate other erogenous parts of your or your partner’s body.
They highly discreet, quiet and cheap.
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The PalmPower Pocket Magic Wand is definitely one of our favourites. The material feels fantastic, its has 7 patterns and 3 different speeds. the rechargeable battery lasts for 90 minutes ( and that’s LOTs of orgasms).
RABBIT VIBRATORS
I think these became famous with the episode of Sex In The City. They are designed to give both clitoral and internal stimulation simultaneously.
The rabbit vibrator is renowned for introducing women to “blended” orgasms (i.e. an orgasm that occurs when two erogenous zones are stimulated simultaneously, like the clitoris and the G-spot).
The more expense rabbit vibrators tend to have 2 or more motors. This means that you have different vibration setting on the internal and clitoral parts of the vibrator giving you complete control in achieving your goal.
If you haven’t had one before, we would recommend starting smaller for your first rabbit vibrator. You can always get a bigger one later once your broken in lol. Some are big enough to make your eyes water when you take them out of the box for the first time.
A great first choice is the Slimline Realistic Rechargeable Rabbit Vibrator From Happy Rabbit. It has a tilted head to target the G-spot, its waterproof, and has 15 vibration modes (3 speeds and 9 patterns in the shaft, 3 speeds in the ears). We know there is a setting there, just for you.
CLASSIC VIBRATORS
Classic vibes are the traditional shaft shape and tapered at the end to hit all your pleasure points. They can be used internally or on the clitoris. They tend to just have one button and simple controls.
Classic Vibrator
Charlie Tango Classic 6 Inch Vibrator | Fifty Shades of Grey
A good example of this would be the Charlie Tango Vibrator with its orgasmic selection of 3 speeds and 4 patterns of vibration.
MAGIC WAND VIBRATORS
Also know as “Hitachi wands” from the original, these are another favourite. Famed for being the ultimate orgasm tool, these evolved from neck massagers that were designed to relieve tired muscles But then, women discovered how the powerful vibrations were perfect for clitoral stimulation. Magic Wand Vibrators are the most powerful of all and as the name implies, MAGIC.
We think that these are the ultimate couples sex toy
Couples Toys
The Pillow Talk Cheeky Wand Massager is one of the more entry level wands and just look how pretty it is.
G-SPOT VIBRATORS
Whether you’ve previously felt your G Spot personally, or have only heard the rumours, using the G Spot vibrator is the one and the only way to unlock your G Spot pleasure to its fullest potential.
G-spot vibrators have a tilted head specifically designed to massage and stimulate the inner front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is located. It’s an absolute must if you don’t want to miss out on the true bliss of G-spot stimulation resulting in the most fulfilling orgasms.
Even though you may know exactly where your G Spot is, unfortunately, doesn’t guarantee that you can effectively stimulate it manually. Your fingers may simply not be long enough.
Woman’s bodies are different, so if the G Spot is located farther up along the anterior vaginal wall, and your fingers are simply shorter than normal, then it may not be physically possible to reach it your G Spot on your own. Plus you need to be able to then apply the required pressure.
So simply, using a G Spot Vibrator gives you much more leverage to not just hit your G Spot, but to hit it effectively.
One of our favourite reasons for using a G Spot vibrator is that it greatly increases the odds of you experiencing squirting (female ejaculation).
Female Toys
We would recommend the WanderLust Serenity G-spot Vibrator. It’s sensually shaped with just the right curve, gives for perfect G-Spot pleasure. Its body is slightly flexible but firm enough for you to apply the pressure that is right for you.
You Have Your New Vibrator, What Now?
Vibrators At The Ready!
Start off by reading the instructions, that’s before you start to charge it or turn it on. If it requires batteries, put them in. Most sex shops will send you batteries with your order. Olivia Grey certainly does. We can’t imagine you receiving your new to and then having to raid the remote control for batteries.
Some vibrators have small watch style batteries with a paper tab that you need to remove prior to use.
Most of the sex toys we sell and now rechargeable and supplied with a USB cable that you can just insert into your phone charging plug or computer. Let it charge for a couple of hours.
Once charged, find out how the buttons work, there may well be a travel lock that you need to turn off. Quite often you just need to hold the on button in for 3 seconds.
Find out if it has independent motors, as seen in some rabbit vibrators, where the body of the vibrator works independently from the ears. Familiarising yourself with the controls will ensure you can enjoy uninterrupted sex play without having to fiddle with the buttons at that crucial moment!
Clean Your Vibrator
Wash it carefully with warm water and soap or use a sex toy cleaner, before you use it. Make sure that you do not get water into the battery case or charging mechanism if it isn’t waterproof.
After using your vibrator make sure you clean it well. Store it in a bag or a dust free environment. Every time you use it, clean before and after.
Related: Keeping It Clean. Your Sex Toys, That Is.
Use The Vibrator Alone For The First Time
Vibrators are awesome for adding a new dimension to any relationship. But get you know what you like before you hand over control to a partner. This is a time for personal exploration and experimentation.
You will feel far less self-conscious by your self as opposed to with a partner. Once you know what feels good, you can then tell them how to use the vibrator to pleasure you.
Add some lube. A lot of sex toys are work much better with liberal amounts of water based lubricant. We say water base because they are sex toy friendly. Silicone lubricant can damage the toys.
Related: All You Need Is Lube
Watch Your Self Use The Vibrator.
A mirror is great for personal exploration. It may sound strange but not only is it a turn on, but you can see what you’re doing. It’s much easier to show someone else if you have seen it first.
Test Your New Sex Toy All Over Your Body.
Discover the sensations, when your vibrator touch other parts of the boy, like the neck, nipples, insides of thighs rather than just jumping straight into a clitoral or vaginal massage.
Take your time and gently massage your clitoris with your vibrator on the lowest speed setting first. Slowly start moving through the settings. If the vibrations feel too strong, lower the speed, use a gentler touch or even put something soft between you and your vibrator.
Some women enjoy lower speed settings and happily achieve powerful orgasms. For others, its stronger stimulation needed to reach orgasm.
All vibrators can be used on the externally on the clitoris and vulva. Not all vibrators are suitable for internal use though.
When you’re all warmed up from your clitoral stimulation, you can slowly insert your vibrator into your vagina.
Go at your own pace, slowly inserting the vibrator into your vagina. Maybe try this when it is turned off, to get used to the sensation. Play with your vibrator by moving in and out slowly.
Turn it on and experiment with the vibration speeds and patterns and find the setting which is pleasurable for you. Some women enjoy just leaving their vibrator in place to experience the waves of vibration coursing through their body, others enjoy moving the vibrator in and out, going deeper or stimulating the external part of the vagina. Try different angles to hit just the right pleasure point.
Now, You Can Show Your Partner.
As we mentioned earlier we love Magic wands for couples. One of the big reasons for this is that we can see what we are doing with the clitoris and vulva.
TOP TIP: Blindfolds are great. Neither of you will feel intimidated if you have a blindfold on. Your partner may be doing this for the first time and also feel self-conscious so why make them feel watched. Plus it tightens your other senses!
While you can still “instruct” and educate how you like to be stimulated externally, Internally you need to let your partner know. It’s down to feel. They don’t know where your g-spot is for example. So as with all sex, communication is key.
Most of all, have fun.
Vibrators really are a girl’s best friend. They are there to make you happy. Regular masturbation not only helps with your mental head space but it is also great for your physical health.
Related: 10 Healthy, Positive Reasons For Women Of All Ages To Use Sex Toys.
We hope that this has been educational and informative. But most of all we hope that it has convinced you, to get to it!!
Any questions, please let us know. We are here to help.
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