Pegging The Ins And Outs: Get In There, Girl

Pegging

Hi Lovers, I am so glad we are all on the same page. Really, if you are here it means that you are down with finding new ways to dive into safe, sexy, explorative adventures.

So let’s get right in there with today’s pointed question…

WHAT IS PEGGING?

And then 3 more questions:

  1. What a woman should know before pegging
  2. What a man should know before being pegged
  3. And what partners should know as a couple, before getting their peg on!

Pegging is also known as BOB, which stands for Bend Over Boyfriend. The term pegging was coined by sex advice guru, Dan Savage.

Pegging, anal penetration of a male by a female wearing a strap-on sex toy, is becoming more widely spoken about. This is not to say that most guys are open to it (!) but, as with so many previously taboo topics, today references to pegging are becoming more commonplace.

As with anything sexual, it is really a case of ‘to each his own’ and no man should ever be pressured into any sexual act. But girls, if you are looking to explore a new avenue *cough* and he is keen to try, this may be the blow-your-hair-back experience you’ve both been waiting for.

Guys, if you’ve never considered it I urge you to open your mind, and your sweet, sweet chocolate starfish.

Men who have tried it will tell you that it brings a unique, mind-blowing, full-body kind of orgasm. Apparently, once you’ve tried Back, you never… umm… go back.

WHY? Well, you know your g-spot is buried up there, right? So what is preventing you from allowing your babe to uncover that hidden treasure? And if she is an adventurous explorer, let her go Indiana Jones on your ass, and get to work on releasing the riches of those riotous orgasms!

BEFORE YOU GET ALL UP IN THERE….

There is a ton of information available for safe anal, so please educate yourselves before doing this. It is not something to rush into. Find all the information you can. And for now, here are some basics to get you started.

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TOP 10 THINGS A MAN SHOULD KNOW BEFORE PEGGING:

  1. Make sure your partner and you have discussed and are in agreement on all aspects of this adventure. No unpleasant surprises, please?
  2. Gear up to it. DO NOT start with full throttle, big-dildo anal.
  3. Start finding ways to role play, and experiment with power exchange to see how you like the role reversal.
  4. Watch others! Find some decent amateur clips to see if it turns you on to begin with. But NOT pro-porn, please. This is never a good indication of what any kind of sex is like in real life.
  5. Experimenting on yourself when alone will help you to open up slowly. It will also give you the time to see how you like the sensation.
  6. Start with your own exploratory fingers, using surgical gloves if you like, and a LOT of lube!
  7. Next, you can move on to a small toy like a butt-plug, or dildo and start playing with it yourself. You could also try a self-prostate massager or some toys of your own, to get going and to see what you like best.
  8. Remember, this is anal. Crap happens. Perfectly natural and nothing to be embarrassed about. A good anal douche beforehand can be heavenly, or at least a damn good showering, with a little watery finger up for a lovely rinse.
  9. And have a towel on hand right by the bed. Perhaps not romantic but let’s be practical.
  10. And it is your job to pick a safe word! Find a seldom-used word like ‘pineapple’ or something, and let your partner know that you will throw this word out there if you need her to stop immediately.

TOP 10 THINGS A WOMAN SHOULD KNOW BEFORE PEGGING: 

  1. Do not buy that strap-on without discussing it beforehand! If he’s keen, whoop-whoop, you can go ahead and purchase the strap-on without him around. He does not need the pressure beforehand, he has enough to deal with.
  2. Try on the strap-on without him first, to get used to how it feels and how to work it. Move around, take some time to see how you can masturbate while wearing it. Get the feel of it. This is new for both of you.
  3. You could make him wear a blindfold so that he can really let go.
  4. Use a smaller dildo to begin – one with a curved head is optimal for stimulating the prostate.
  5. Make sure you have plenty of silicone-based lubricant! Apply to his ass and to the dildo. Keep applying lubricant to the part of the dildo that is not inside him, to keep the glide smooth, without interrupting the play.
  6. Use condoms on the dildo! For reasons of cleanliness, and also because the silicone-based lubricants are not suitable for use on silicone toys.
  7. First, explore the outside of his anus with fingers (use surgical gloves).
  8. When he is ready, gently place the tip of the dildo at the entrance and allow his relaxed anus to take the dildo – do not force anything!
  9. Make sure the dildo is always facing away from your man’s spine. Pace yourself to be pushing more in a direction toward the belly button. That is caused by a rocking, upwards motion. If you are going slow, you will master this groove pretty quickly.
  10. Be the best Top you can be, and make sure to give him lots of loving after-care.

TOP 10 THING A COUPLE SHOULD KNOW BEFORE PEGGING:

  1. First, use your talk-holes! Anal penetration of any kind requires a lot of communication about a very touchy subject and if you can’t talk about it… you’re just not ready to do it.
  2. Don’t be in a rush. There are plenty of steps you could linger on, in the lead-up to actual anal penetration. Even simply discussing it can be incredibly hot. Maybe give yourselves a time buffer and agree that you will work up to it by a certain date. Build up the fantasy, and work on gathering the information at the same time.
  3. And simply the act of looking online for the right sex toys can give you hours of sexy time. And remember we are right here to help! That’s what WE are here for… please hit that button to chat with us NOW!
  4. Familiarize yourself with the male sexual anatomy, specifically the anus and the prostate gland. Follow the basics of safe anal play. Educate yourselves!
  5. Know this: many men lose their erections when being stimulated anally. Don’t worry, this is normal! Some men may not have this, but if he does it is not an indicator of pleasure or of prowess. There will be plenty of other indicators that prove what a good time he’s having.
  6. Do not try doggie-style as the first position. Contrary to what most of us imagine, this is more of a move you work your way up to. The angle leaves the anus more susceptible to injury and is only to be approached when you are more practised. Experiment with different positions. Spooning is the best way to start, and you may want to try using pillows to elevate his hips. OR he can straddle the strap-on, giving him total control over the depth and pulse of the penetration.
  7. Let him set the pace. Even though she is in charge, he must be allowed to lead the way. Follow his pace, he is in the vulnerable position and when you have discussed this beforehand, it will give him peace of mind to know that he, in fact, the one in charge.
  8. The best way is for the female to be more still and controlled than the male. Let him set the pace, and as you feel the movements of his body, start moving with him. This way you will find a rhythm that is comfortable for him. You will also be more tuned into his passion, and able to follow his rhythms, which change tempo as he gets more turned on.
  9. Don’t be focused on the butt only! Relax and get into the other parts of the body, as you would when having any other kind of sex. This is meant to be fun!
  10. Clean all the toys afterwards– which is easy when you have used condoms on everything.

STRAP-ON DILDOS

Strap ons are the most flexible sex toy in the business, yet they can be neglected because of the perception that they’re just for same-sex female couples or for pegging your accomplice.

An incredible aspect of strap-ons is that anybody can utilize them. If you have a penis, you can use a strap-on. 

On the off chance that you don’t have a penis, you can use a strap-on. 

You can use a strap-on to enter an accomplice of any sexual orientation, to undermine cliché sex roles or to play with those roles. 

You can use one for the sake of entertainment, or you can use one to oversee erectile or orgasmic challenges. 

You can use a strap-on for vaginal sex, butt-centric sex, oral sex, manual sex, or masturbation.

Ends up, there are varying styles of strap-ons that work for any blend of partners and sexual orientations, and they accompany such novel advantages that you’ll ask yourself why you hadn’t brought them into your routine sooner.

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Strap-On Harness | Malesation

The Malesation Strap On Harness is the ideal harness for those searching for a delicate, comfortable and flexible harness for their dildos.

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Barny Dildo | Malesation

The Barny Dildo has a long thin design, suction cup base and is ideal for a harness. 

This is the perfect beginner dildo and furthermore incredible for pegging when matched with a harness.

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Limba Flex Bendable Dildo | Fun Factory

The bendable shaft of the luxurious Limba flex by Fun Factory permits you to twist and shape the shaft into the position that suits you, so you can get investigating to locate your sweet spot. 

Take your pick between the small for grinding or the medium for thrusting and get innovative with this flexible toy ideal for solo play, butt-centric fun, couples foreplay, and obviously pegging with its harness compatible suction cup base.

Need we say more?

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Strap & Bound Denim Harness | Fun Factory

Let’s be honest ladies – once in a while you simply need that little (or large) something else. The STRAP and BOUND INVISIBLE DENIM 3. 

The world’s first harness out of soft denim (= 100% vegan!), will give you precisely what you need. 

Essentially combine your number one dildo (for example the BOUNCER) with this German high-quality jean harness, strap in and continue where you left off – either vaginal or butt-centric fun.

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Rechargeable Vibrating Strap-On Harness Set | Happy Rabbit

Strap in to appreciate hair-raising shared delight with our happy rabbit strap-on harness kit. 

Offering a whopping 15 vibration functions for both of you and a completely adjustable harness, bedroom euphoria is just a bounce, skip, and a hop away. 

For even more thrilling couples play away from home or in the bath or shower, the strap-on is waterproof, USB rechargeable, and features a travel lock.

Who is a vibrating strap-on harness set perfect for?

  1. For couples looking to achieve that extreme climax together
  2. For people who enjoy an easy clean with their sex toys

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ShareVibe Strapless Strap-On Vibrator | Fun Factory

A best-seller for over a decade, the classic share Couple toy is now available with a bullet integrated into its base. The new version of this all-time favourite love toy is called Sharevibe.

Sharevibe is ideal for couples in search of an upscale strap-on toy. This German-made, silicone beauty is the only toy of its kind with a strong 5-pattern rechargeable vibrator bullet incorporated into its base. As such, it lets a couple share vibrations during lovemaking.

The right fit for:

  1. Couples who want more skin-to-skin contact while playing.
  2. Couples who like to be pleasured simultaneously.

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So off you go, let’s have at it! 

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